Imagine how much better and easier the whole thing would be if your focus was, "Look
straight ahead. The other side is so beautiful. Getting there is easy!" Now
let's parallel.
It's like saying, "Don't smoke." Don't is a negative approach and smoke
is the very thing you don't want to do! The message sent to our mind is clearly
what we DON'T want to have happen! When we focus on something like, "My lungs
expand fully as health and energy surge through my body 24/7!" Guess what?
You got it! You'll begin smoking less and, more importantly, will find it so much
easier to quit!
If the route you've chosen to lose weight with focuses on what you eat, you're going
to be asked to do the same thing - focus on the foods we are "allowed"
to eat, and highlighters or red pens are used on the food diaries we keep to place
even more focus - on what? THE FOOD!! So, what's going on in our minds when this
occurs? We're processing what we can and can't have. If we can muster up any motivation
at all, it's based on NOT wanting to be FAT... or wanting to LOSE the WEIGHT...
or staying AWAY from a certain type of food!! Stop the madness!!!
Look again at what's written there! We focus on what NOT to do! It's a double negative.
We need a positive-positive in order for success to come in any realm...including
the area of our weight. You see, our minds comprehend negative language 50% slower
than positive language. So, if nothing other than this was the case, we'd not be
succeeding because our brain doesn't know what on earth we're talking about! But
there is more to it than that. Rather than repeating in our minds what we DON'T
want to see happen or what we need to STAY AWAY from, if we focused on what we WANTED
to see occur... the simple truth is that we'd begin to see it. Our minds hear what
we want and see what we think about as who we are, so we behave accordingly. Truly,
it's this easy.
Think about this with regard to working out. We join a gym or buy the most recent
product that tells us we'll drop 7 dress sizes in one month or some crazy nonsense
like that. Reflect back, what's going on inside our head at the time? "I do
NOT want to be OVERWEIGHT... or I HAVE to exercise so I can LOSE... or I've GOT
to MAKE myself do this." Again I say, "GOOD GRIEF!" Do we truly wonder
why we haven't been fully successful when we keep telling our minds what we MUST
NOT do or keep repeating the words we don't want to come to fruition over and over
again.?
So, let's stop the madness here and now! The next time you see
one of those ads reading, "She lost 113 pounds... see what she ate." Or,
"Her workout only took 20 days... learn it now."
Stop and remember
that focusing on the food or the workout is NOT going to be your key to success.
Focusing on the result you want, however, is.
If we focus on the food or the workout, it would be like focusing on what the bridge
is made of, or what length it is. While these components are how you get to the
other side, focusing on getting there is what causes you to do so. This is true
with your thinking and weight management too. Focus on 'why' you want to be thin
and the how will be infinitely easier.
Anyone who's made a habit of exercising regularly or eating in a healthy way does
so because they know their why, not because they focus on what to eat or how to
move. Even those who have built the habit into their life or have the self discipline
to do what they need to do for a lifetime possess these traits because their why
was in place long ago.
Remember, when the why is strong enough the how is easy!! That's it! That's the
secret to permanent loss and looking better, feeling better and living longer. I've
seen this secret bring about immeasurable success. I'd love to help you find yours.
Send me a note at
notetodonna@thinandhealthy.com
and we'll get moving on this goal together in the life-changing coaching program
I'm putting together.
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